A month ago I went home to Georgia for my sister-in-law’s baby shower. It’s only a three hour drive, but it often feels like we live on the other side of the world in terms of how easy it is to get there.
I thought as the boys got older it would be easier to visit my folks, but what I have found is school age kids have lots of activities and commitments which makes it harder to drop everything and go visit as often as we would like.
We live in Tennessee because that’s where Stew’s job is. Many of you know how that is. Your heart is in one place while your home is in another.
We make the best of where we live, but our thoughts are always divided with where we want to be. I always refer to our visits as going home.
So when I see my baby brother we usually start out like this…
But it quickly turns to this…
He’s trying to squeeze me to death in case you didn’t know.
Which ends up like this…
Even the dog added to the craziness of the surprise headlock. As you can see, my sister and I tolerate a lot from Josh.
Although I may not like Josh tossing me around like a sack of potatoes, the boys love it. I have to admit he’s great with kids and I know he’ll be a great father to his own.
After 52 hours of induced labor, my sweet little nephew finally arrived this week. Ezra Adam was born on his grandmother’s birthday and my mom couldn’t have been any happier about that.
I said he was a stubborn Nix through and through since it took him so long to make an appearance. Shaina, all labor isn’t that tough. I’m sure the next one will be much easier! Hint, hint. We want more nieces and nephews to spoil!
Ezra Adam already said I’m his favorite aunt even though we haven’t met yet. And I personally think he was giving me plenty of time to drive down from Tennessee to be there for is birth. Sorry little guy but I had to go to a required chorus concert where my own little guy lip synced. One of these days I’m sure you’ll do the same and your parents will enjoy it as much as I did.
Baby brother and Shaina, here are a few thoughts I gleaned from being a mother…
First off, congrats to you Joshua & Shaina. There isn’t a feeling in the world like being a parent and you can’t fully appreciate it until they place that special bundle of joy in your arms for the first time. No matter how prepared you think you are, you will quickly realize the heavy obligation you have before you.
These little guys don’t come with handbooks, and everybody and I do mean everybody, will give you advice on the right way to do everything…. from nursing to diapering to getting your baby to sleep through the night. Be patient and know we all mean well. We’re just excited and we want to help even though we know it’s not really a help because we once were new parents, too.
And those middle of the night feedings that we all hated so very much? Well, those will be some the greatest moments you’ll spend together. I’m glad we didn’t have smart phones when I was nursing my babies. Cherish those times. They will be over before you know it.
It’s not always easy being a parent. There are many sleepless nights and your time is no longer your own, but that’s just a small part of it. You’ll quickly come to understand how deeply you can love and how deeply you can hurt for someone else. His joy will be your joy and his pain will be your pain times 100 at the very least, but again, it’s one of the best experiences you’ll ever have.
So Josh and Shaina, may you love, guide, and protect Ezra Adam into adulthood while at the same time allowing him to carve his own path (that’s the hard part I’m finding out!). May you treasure the good times as well as the bad and may you grow stronger as a family with each passing experience. And may you love being a parent as much as I have.
Congrats and best wishes Josh & Shaina! I can’t wait to meet Ezra Adam and spoil him rotten!